Extraverted Feeling

GIFTS – Effective use:

• Initiating and maintaining relationships
• Providing help and support
• Prioritizing according to the impact on others
• Encouraging consensus
• Creating a warm and comfortable environment
• Being tactful
• Expressing the feelings of the group
• Making others feel special and valued
• Role modeling social skills
• Ensuring people are heard
• Helping everyone ‘fit in’

BLIND SPOTS – Ineffective use:

• Being exhausted meeting others’ needs
• Aiming to please everybody all of the time
• Giving help when it’s not wanted
• Failing to assess the quantity and quality of support required
• Being deeply offended when appreciation is not expressed
• Assuming ill-feelings from others when there is none intended
• Giving praise when it’s not earned
• Covering up an issue to avoid conflict
• Taking responsibility for the happiness of others and feeling inappropriately responsible for any discord

CONTRIBUTION

It’s important for us to create a positive climate here; people need to feel comfortable so they can grow and contribute.  What can we do together to make this possible?

BECOMING RIGID

Creating harmony in the world by appreciating and supporting others can become an intrusive insistence that everyone be nice and happy; that there are no bad things or people.

COMMUNICATION CLUES

People, values/preferences, meets others and own needs in the social context, unifying words.

LEARNING NEEDS

Affirmation and acknowledgement from people around you who can identify and encourage your talents in a personal way.

Extraverted Feeling is about purposeful affiliation and evaluating worth by considering the feelings and values of those involved