Introverted Feeling

GIFTS – Effective use:

• Making decisions based on personal values
• Feeling secure in one’s beliefs
• Cultivating inner harmony
• Resisting peer pressure when it goes against a deeply held conviction
• Standing up for the rights of the individual
• Evoking loyalty and commitment to large issues and goals
• Knowing when something ‘feels’ right
• Forming deep relationships
• Working ‘behind the scenes’ for peace
• Assessing sincerity and genuineness accurately
• Following a personal moral code

BLIND SPOTS – Ineffective use:

• Concealing feelings to a point where others find it difficult to get to know them
• Dismissing others’ beliefs if in conflict with their own
• Being stubborn when a personal value system is upset
• Excluding someone who holds different values
• Creating such idealistic standards that no one can ever measure up
• Assuming that others’ values are unchangeable
• Feeling vulnerable when emotions are revealed
• Seeing arguments as personal attacks

CONTRIBUTION

If we agree to this, what we’re really saying to others is “this is what counts; this is what we stand for”.  Can everyone buy into this?

BECOMING RIGID

The sensitive evaluation of oneself and other in terms of clear inner values and commitments can become a judgmental insistence that only one’s own values are valid and that all else is immoral.

COMMUNICATION CLUES

Personal identity, what’s important, wants/desires, choices to live with, one’s conscience.

LEARNING NEEDS

Genuine community in which to learn with peers and mentors who share values while encouraging individual self-expression.

Introverted Feeling is about harmonizing value systems and evaluating worth by checking in with personal issues of integrity and authenticity